This is one of my old FB post that received a lot of engagement. So I feel its worthy of sharing. We all can say we have experienced this or it has crossed our minds at some point.
My friend made a post asking for advice on mx trainer or not… I replied, even though I have no expertise or even experience what so ever when it comes to that topic… but I wanted to share my response bc I was asked to in a private message… warning, this will not help you make a decision on whether to use a trainer or not… lol and I’m not against trainers at all. If i had a vehicle to get Kyle to a trainer and if i had the money right now, I would definitely have him working with one…. but anyways, I was asked to share my comment and my perspective. Now, Kyle has had people work with him for a few hours or so like at camps or when Brandan Martin mentored him… but he has never had the opportunity to work with anyone on a consistent basis or for more than a day here and there….
“Well, heres my 2 cents. Kyle has never worked with a trainer nor has he been to a training facility so I obviously cant say who is the best or what really works. And, Kyle is only 7 so clearly I don’t have history to back him. However, I can say what I feel in my heart works. So, Kyle has only been trained by his dad and by me… and when I say me, all i was capable of was taking him to tracks to provide ride time, pointing out the obvious, and working on the things that Dave suggested Kyle work on. Kyle has had older riders that became family to him and they mentored and guided him. Kenny Venarchick, Cody Schock, both made a major impact on Kyles psyche. And then training with faster kids, that really pushed him past his limits. It was only when we stopped putting so much pressure and expectations on Kyle that we truly saw a difference. To be honest, I believe the best thing for a kid is to support them, love them, believe in them, but still push them past their comfort zone without “breaking them”. We are guilty of being the parents that got so wrapped up at the beginning, being so fuckin intense, pushing him and when he came off the track after a 2nd place finish, the first thing you would see him do is look for us and look into our eyes, he wanted to see if we were proud or not and we would say good job but he could feel our energy, and get upset and say “you don’t think I did good” and we would deny it only to follow up with you should have done or could have done… and he would be shattered… and honestly we were assholes!!!! Our good friend Kenny V, Lil Kennys dad, loved us enough to be honest with us and put life and motocross into perspective for us… So we made changes, still making mistakes along the way, but it was clear what was best for Kyle. It was not a training facility, not a trainer, no energy drinks or candy to make him faster…. it was love, pride, support, setting limits, pushing limits, having those mx role models, and training with the faster kids!!! Thats what has worked for us… and Kyle isn’t the fastest kid so maybe none of this matters to anyone but it is what has worked for us.”
Namaste ~ Erika Born